|To be a successful group, each member must embrace his role.|
Today, I remember the time I accepted Christ as my personal Lord and Savior. However, someone shared me this problem. For my special 13th SB post, I'll try to answer this concern based from the Scriptures. Note: This is based on a true story. I altered the names to protect the privacy of the people involved.
Here we go! Guy A is the leader of a group where he and Guy B are a part of. However, Guy B finds Guy A a little bit too strict; too strict that B has had enough of A, especially when A told B to do some things and not to do some others. B is upset to A and even if A wanted to apologize for his "harsh" actions, B can't simply accept it.
Here's my advice. For Guy B, just follow Guy A; no more if and buts. If there's a reason why he's strict, that's because he and even the other members want order and organization in the group. The leader knows what is best for the welfare of the group. His strictness is only there when you're at work. But outside of it, he is (and should be) very friendly. As they say, "Walang personalan. Trabaho lang." If he thinks he was too harsh, he will apologize. Also, accept his apology and apologize to him. For Guy A, on the other hand, being a leader, you must be sensitive to your comrades' needs. Like Guy B, some of your members can be too sensitive when they get some sermons. Talk to your sensitive comrades and tell them that it's just for the betterment of the organization. Also, if you have new members, brief them why you're doing this and that. If your members find problems, don't hesitate to help them.
To sum it up, an old saying goes like this: To lead is to follow and to follow is to lead.
My advice can be encapsulated in this verse: John 15:13 (KJV)-Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.